Hiya C_S
I hope you are doing well my friend!
You pose an interesting question. It is apparent to me that in this situation, the family has come together again specifically to heal this trauma. And precisely BECAUSE it is such a charged issue it is very hard for them to face this thing and deal with it head on. But deal with it they must or otherwise it will remain an unresolved issue. It will keep “glueing” them together and they will be unable to move on to other games if this is not released.
In order to release this it would be most advisable to have some sort of counselling and facilitation by an outside party. A therapist or counsellor. But before that can happen the family AS A GROUP will have to admit that there is a problem… that there is pain that needs to be healed. And this is usually a challenge. There will often be a whole lot of denial going on in such situations. Even if one or two members are willing to deal with it there will be other members that will say “there is nothing wrong with me” and be unwilling to engage with the process. And what to do then? Then, I guess, it is up to the person or persons that DO feel the pain and that admit to feeling it to go for their own counselling. I have seen this kind of thing happen and can attest to the fact that one healed member of a family can help bring healing to other members who have been unwilling or unable to go for therapy themselves. If just one member finds real inner-peace and real self-love then they become like a calm centre around which the storm rages. They become a mature, integral, safe-place which the other members will be able to anchor to and then slowly heal as they can.
I can use the metaphor of a jigsaw puzzle. When all the pieces are jumbled and scattered then it is very hard to see how to build the picture. But when you find just one piece and put it in it’s right place… well then the adjacent pieces can quickly be found. And from that first one piece that was in its place the rest of the puzzle will come together. I’d say it is our mission… all of us that are awakening to who we really are… to be that one piece.
