Stupid Neighborhood

[quietsound]

I was the VP of a homeowners association, if you ever think about being on your neighborhood board? DON’T!! It’s a thankless job in which you do not get paid and no one is ever happy with what you do. It doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do there are going to be people that do not understand. I actually had a girlfriend who was on the board with me a few years ago make me up a Tshirt that says “I don’t Understand”! We had a good laugh about it.

I resigned in July due to underhanded stuff and now I’m trying to get rid of all this negative energy that has attached itself to me and I do not speak to any of them at all. Not even a smile or a wave goes up my hand.

My question to all of you is this: How do you live with and deal with idiots, how do you look beyond and above it all when dealing with people who backstab you and betray you. 🙁

[Wolfpaw]

This has been a big issue for me too. Because of how people act, its made me into quite a hermit even though I don’t want to be. Even though it can get lonely, my saying is that I’d rather live in truth then live like the “sheeple”. Sometimes Its difficult to stand by what you believe too.

For example, I had one friend that I helped out a lot and he considered me to be like a brother. Unfortunately, there was a few times when he wanted me to lie for him and I wouldn’t. I think this may have ticked him off and he no longer talks to me. It does hurt some because a big part of you just wants to be with your brothers and sisters, but I also choose to live fully in love and light. I just keep focused on what I want in a friend, family, and/or community and know that it will eventually, it will come to me. That helps me get through the days.

[opalescent]

Man I can totally relate. I live in a development in the countryside and we’re itching to get on a little farmland somewhere with some acreage around. It’s tough living with people, but if you look at all the masters who’ve walked the planet, how many of them had to put up with the neighbors? Jesus, Buddha, I’m sure you could find dozens of examples of masters who had people in their face misunderstanding them, etc. We’ve had to deal with a lot of stuff lately, especially betrayal of trust, and it has hurt deeply. Despite anger, rage, bewilderment, sadness, etc etc, we consciously went into asking “what is this teaching us? how can we heal from this? What is presented for mastery?” Like Annu said in another post:

So much at once can leave a person reeling and wondering what to do…I really just try to trust that everything is happening for a perfect reason and to keep making choices based on and through Love. If I find myself feeling fearful or the victim of something, some person, some place, or situation I KNOW I must get a grip and become balanced. I’m working on turning every negative or limiting idea/thought into a positive immediately. This is exhausting work constantly watching myself, but I think it’ll be worth it in the end.

Actually, we had a very positive shift through dealing with deep betrayal, like Jesus being handed over to the Romans by Judas, and an opportunity to forgive another’s actions, however thoughtless and selfish they were (and believe me, they were!). Those were the words of my partner, who is decidedly NOT a church person at all, thinks the bible is mostly BS. And the guy we had trouble with is a devout “Christian” but I could think of a dozen things Jesus would’ve done differently from what he did! I resist the temptation to tell him so, trusting that he’ll get his lesson from the universe (as I’ve requested 😉 ) Then about a week later, after I had a chance to process what had happened, I had an emotional breakdown of sorts and through that felt a lot of ancient anguish leave me. Not fun, but in the end, it was healing.

It’s difficult to look with love at those who make themselves so unlovable. But what good is love if it’s not for everyone? We can only be, and by that know that our presence is anchoring light. We can just be, and smile. Even if those around us can’t see it–they’ll usually feel it, like a thorn in their side, but imagine the darkness if we weren’t there at all. Part of the undercover work of being awake in a sleeping world. Just be glad you’re awake. Sometimes I think that the worst thing that can happen to such people as our neighbor is that they have to live with themselves.

If reality is a fractal, and if we can be peace in a stewpot of discontent, then, supposedly, that will change the hologram on a global scale.

[quietsound]

I have to tell you, I am enjoying this site emmensly. It feels like I have come home from being away for a very long time.

how does one find balance though in a room full of negativity and find the positives. My one dear friend who I do love is a mess. She is probably the MOST negative person on this side of Virginia Beach. Nothing is ever right with her BUT you wonder why I put up with it. Because she’s good to me. She tells you like it is even though this woman is 27 years older than me. “there’s something “there””

This woman is trying to get back ON the board. She was on for 14 years and was voted off a year ago. She is trying to get my seat but the rest of the board does not like her and are trying to think of every excuse in the world to KEEP her off. I question her…I say “why in the name of St. Peter” do you want back into this mess. She tells me it’s because she doesn’t allow it to bother her like it bothers me and she feels since I have left there is NO direction.

It’s just hard to get away from it. When I found out they the board were dragging their feet and made these horrible changes screwing the neighborhood I cried for an hour while my husband held me telling me to let it go and they will get theirs and i said i’m so angry! I was more angry for her I think but perhaps because they took advantage of the entire neighborhood and it’s hard to let go obviously or I would not be bringing this up.

I have rambled on long enough I’m starting to sound like the young and the restless over here.

Hugs to all.
Terry

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