Mate, as always, I knew if I asked, you would reply Zingdad.
Beautiful, I have found the key phrase I was looking for. I will certainly go through this post a few more times and I feel that in time these words will sit with her and give her greater understanding.
It’s hard to let go, even if all you have left to let go of is contained in a bead on a necklace. Meaning is a wisp of a thing, sometimes.
Zing, I feel so much in your words, as what you say in many ways outlines my own experience on this earth. There is a secret place in a mother’s heart for lost children, and I don’t think it ever really goes away. It is a grief I have felt personally my whole life, from my family history. My sister’s things were all taken from the house after her death, and there was no opportunity for letting go. I don’t know of any mother who is prepared for motherhood, either the life or the loss of it. It can’t be prepared for because it’s a transformation into something wholly other. If women were to wait until they were truly ready to become mothers, there would be far fewer babies born on this planet! You must have some very active remembrances of how it was “elsewhere”, perhaps on Lyra? 😀
It’s so easy to get lost in such a dark place, it can get very cold and lonely and tough to get grounded without being swallowed up. Your client will be ready to let go, when the time is right and all the understandings are in place. It sounds like you’re really connected with her, Syme, so don’t fret, the right words will spill out of your mouth!